Profile Of A Godly Husband
“A knight in shining armour sweeping you off your feet; he’s a loving and devoted husband and father to his children, who loves you so much your heart could burst. He’s so perfect you swell with pride at all his accomplishments and are viewed with envy by every woman.”
“Thud!” that’s the sound of your rear end hitting the ground of reality! The man you married isn’t like that! He’s inconsiderate, insensitive; arrogant; blind as a bat to spiritual matters; forgets your birthday and anniversary; acts like a bachelor instead of a married man; couldn’t care less if you’re hurting; caresses the remote control more than he does you; wouldn’t and couldn’t nurse you if were dying, yet, if he had the sniffles he’d want to be pampered; can’t clean up after himself, need I go on?
And frankly, if your man falls pitifully short get to praying the word into his life as well as working on your own conversation (what kind of wife are you lovable or contemptible?) – 1 Peter 3.
His profile: – Fears God and delights in His way;
- Has a relationship with God as priest over his home – he prays;
- Has left father and mother (this includes yours, interfering at every opportunity, although they mean well of course!) and cleaves to his wife;
- Obeys God word;
- Puts the Lord first in all his endeavours – Is head of his house; – Knows his wife and dwells with her according to knowledge;
- Provides for his house and leaves an inheritance for his children’s children;
- Loves his wife as Christ loved the church and gave His life for her (would die for her if required);
- Submits in love – a humbling of one’s self;
- Fulfils his role as husband and father – Walks in the Spirit.
These characteristics do not come overnight, but are cultivated through praying, fasting, confession and faith by both the man who craves it and the wife who needs it.
Ask yourself, ‘what kind of a husband am I?’ Am I the godly type, which is one who obeys God’s word or am I the worldly type who acts in a stereotypical manner, the ‘male chauvinistic jerk?’ Right through biblical times to the present, couples who walked in godly unity enjoyed the benefits both to themselves and the generations after them.
Let, me ask you, other than financial wealth, if any, what other legacy are you leaving for your children and the generations to come? Let’s consider Abraham and his wife, Sarah, it’s his faith and obedience that has given every believer the same covenant of blessings he and his descendants enjoy.
Due to Joseph’s faithfulness and Mary’s obedience to Jesus’ conception and birth we have the blessed hope of eternal life and God’s blessings on earth. There are many more couples like Aquila and Priscilla, who were very helpful to Paul’s ministry.
In these present times you have the Copeland’s, the Meyer’s , the Dollar’s, the Price’s, the Robinson’s, the list is endless you may know of a few. If you fail to treat you r wife the way the bible teaches, you do yourself a great disservice , to put it bluntly, you are, ‘shooting yourself in the foot’ – 1 Peter 3:7.
So, my beloved brethren, start searching the scriptures and pray for a change. These are perilous times, where the devil is knocking, rocking and burying marriages. If you don’t want to fall prey to the devil’s plans which include separation and divorce, then watch and pray!
A godly man is not ignorant of the devil’s devices against his marriage and knows how to use God’s word to change his situation for the better through prayer and fasting. Let us choose life!
Taken from the first issue of Love Nurture in Oct. 03 written by Eruvwu Obuaya.
