Understanding the why behind the behaviour
I heard this term used today, understanding the why behind the behaviour. This was in regards to marriage relationships the differences between men and woman. Men are single taskers while woman multi task.
To give your husband information you need to get his attention, he can’t be doing other things and still hear you, that’s just the way he is. When wives speak to their husbands you have to be mindful and this, that way you avoid unnecessary problems in future.
It’s all about understanding the why.
The story is told of a teenager who had to help look after his invalid grandfather. He took his grandfather his meals daily and gradually started to resent it. One day he marched to his mother and announced, “I won’t do it anymore!”
His mother asked him to sit while she told him a story. ‘When you were younger, we had a fire in the house, your father thought you were upstairs with me and I thought you were down stairs with him. Your grandfather was visiting at the time and he was the one who discovered you were still inside, so without hesitation he walked back into the house and placed a wet blanket over you and brought you out safely. That’s why he is the way he is now.”
Without hesitation the teenager took the tray and never complained again!
Another story is told of a father who brought his out of control children to a meeting. People there were huffing and puffing, murmuring about the unruly children. Finally, the father got up and said, “Hello everybody, my apologies for my children’s’ behaviour, we have just come back from the hospital where their mother just died and I suppose this is a way of dealing with it for them.” Everyone snapped into action, they could not help enough with the children.
What changed, their perception did. It is all about understanding the why behind the behaviour.
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